Children and Martini

Yesterday, on the way back from NIE, I took the train from Boon Lay down to City Hall. Was planning to meet some friends for a couple of drinks.

Sandra sat at the corner seat and I sat beside her. Beside us was this lady and her daughter was in front if us standing and holding on to the pole. She then jumped up to try and grab the hand hold but she missed. So I encouraged her to try again. This went on till the train started moving.
We soon got to chatting and found out that this young lady, Maya, was 6 years old. She was from Arizona and was on her way to India. We three were just playing with one another.
Soon I had to stand coz someone else needed the seat more than me and this meant that I was standing next to Maya. This of course facilitated the playing. Her mum was watching on and was laughing away at us.
Right at the end, when she alighted at City Hall too, this beautiful young lady said "thank you" and gave Sandra and I each a hug. I was so pleasantly surprised!

Made my way to Moreton's at Oriental Hotel. They serve Martinis there at $9.95 each from 1700 - 1900 every weekday. They also serve complementary filet mignon sandwiches. The sandwiches are amazing!!!
Tried out Ivy's Lycheetini but it wasn't very nice. Had myself an Appletini that was fantastic. They had cinnamon sugar on the rim of the glass and it gave such a kick to the drink.
After 1.5 Martinis, I had already had too much to drink (empty stomach you see!) and was way buzzed. Walked back to City Hall with Elsa and Su Linn ( who also had 2 Maritinis each and were in FAR better condition than me!) and by the time I got there,I was feelingmuch better.

I seriously recommend this Martini Bar thingy. It is really a great place to have a chat and a drink. Very cozy and open.

Insights From A White Flare Skirt

Went Salsa-ing last night. Saw a young lady there that danced really well. But more than that, it as hat she was wearing that was amazing to me.

She was in a baby blue top and a white flare skirt. Everytime she made a turn, the skirt would 'float' and the sight was amazing (now for those of you ho think otherwise, the skirt had an inner lining that DID't flare). The coolest part as the fact that she looked amzing while still being very modest. In my opinion, that is the best combination.

This episode got me to thinking. If I was the guy dancing with her, would I actually notice how amazing she looked hen she danced? I mean, I would get a real good look at her face but not the whole picture would I?
The guy who was watching from afar now, he had an opportunity to behold the complete beauty of the situation.
All this said, I would still rather be the guy dancing with her!

Here is the insight that I had. As much as I would love to be the one dancing with her, I would then be the guy that doesn't get to see the whole beauty. How true is this of the things that we have with us.
Do we hold our jobs, friends, relationships so close that we fail to see the whole beauty in it?

Sometimes we should just take a seat and watch. Wait and see. The whole beauty of that, of whom, we hold in our hands.

Rampant Apathy

I have heard time and again the complaint that the morals of our society are slowly being eroded away. How true this is. Look around and you will see the blatant absence of courtesy, the blatant disregard for laws.
Mind you, there are many who still have the above traits but by and large the majority of the populace is beginning on a steady downward spiral.

All that being said and done, what is even more startling is the blatant INDIFFERENCE, APATHY that the rest of us have taken upon ourselves to exhibit with such passionate religiousness. Look around, you will see the people flouting the rules and mores of morality, but notice also the abundance of people around that are willing to just standby and mutter under their breath.

Maybe some of us are concerned with the possibility of butting into other people's business and more so of being made to look stupid, or worse, to be found embarrassing our peers. But isn't it our business that these people are butting into, when they litter without concern for the cleanliness of the place, when they make out in public transport, when they walk / drive through a red traffic light "because there is no car what!" What do we do? Do we just watch or should we be actively holding up the moral standards and rebuke our brothers and sisters.

If we just let things be, we are as much a part of the problem as the offenders themselves!

The List

A very many many years ago, my good friend John, sat me down and got me to prepare of list of characteristics that I wanted in a wife. I then prepared a list and the top 2 items on my list are

1. Must be a Christian that is active in ministry
2. Must understand and appreciate my sense of humour

My decision to stick by this list has resulted in having a much smaller pool of 'potentials' than many of my friends. I see them hooking up rather quickly and (from my perspective, at least) rather easilty.

I have been repeatedly chided by friends that I am too rigid and I am too picky. Am I?
I have been struggling with similar questions and the post on James blog is one that I agree with.
Why do so many people out there assume that singleness is a problem? Why is it not possible to be single and yet live a fulfilling life.

I think that it is possible, provided that we have the right perspective and also if we have Jesus to fill the need for relationship in us. Jona's blog entry has highlighted to me that there are ladies out there too who practice the preparation of a list and of evaluating the potential spouse objectively by this list, not by our emotions of the moment..

I've been single now for about 5 years now. I intend to stick to my list and if that means that it is not yet my season to move into a relationship...Amen to that.